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I am new to the community and new to the UU experience. I have recently started going to a UU fellowship in Fayetteville, AR. I thought it was so great.

anyway to my point. My mother-in-law thinks UU is a cult. I am not sure how to explain to her the values and principles of the fellowship. I have sent her literature on it and also sent her a nice little video and nothing seemed to help. Her background is Assembly of God and she is such a sweet person but I feel like she thinks I am corrupting her son into going to a church that doesn't praise God. I have explained to her that there are many people that practice many different religions but I think that she believes that if they are not talking about God the entire time then it is not church.

Basically i just wanted to know if anyone has any tips on how to approach her from a different perspective than what I have already done.
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Date:August 25th, 2008 04:13 pm (UTC)
Assembly of God is normally pentacostal. Tell her how this church believes in the living spirit and how personal experience informs how you come to faith. These are talking points that can help her relate to you.
Date:August 25th, 2008 04:22 pm (UTC)
The problem is that she doesn't relate to that. It is the head in the bible and ears closed type of argument with her and this. I have explained all that and it still seems like I am getting no where.

She went on a fast because she was worried about us so much and it made her really sick.
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Date:August 25th, 2008 05:15 pm (UTC)
If I were in your place, I would just leave it be. If she's the "head in the bible and ears closed" kind of person, I really can't think of something you could say that would get her to say, "Wow, I hadn't thought of it that way!" I mean, if she's bringing it up, I would just stay positive and respectful, and not even try to persuade her. Sorry, that's not very helpful. Good luck!

Oh, and welcome to this community and to UU!
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Date:August 25th, 2008 05:40 pm (UTC)
i'm guessing you've tried this, but explain that each person praises God in their own way? and leave out (for the moment) that some UUs don't believe in god.

I would also suggest asking a minister about it, I'll bet most have heard a lot of arguments similar to you M-i-L and have good, minister-y ways of dealing with them. Especially if the minister has been serving in a bible-belt-y area like Fayetteville (or Texas, where I'm from).

good luck!
Date:August 25th, 2008 05:57 pm (UTC)
yeah i have tried that but we are having a UU 101 meeting next sunday so I might bring it up with the minister then and also talk to them on a one on one basis.

thank you
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Date:August 25th, 2008 05:47 pm (UTC)
In that situation, I usually play up the Christian roots of UUism, as well as the modern practices.

The belief in Universal Salvation, the Bible as a Guide towards living a better life in this imperfect world of our own making, and in The One God (just try and not mention that the Unitarians belief in the One God was also a demotion of Jesus to Teacher and Prophet...)

This hits at least 4 of the 16 Fundamental Truths of the AoG.

I've even gone far enough to abate similar familial issues by searching about for Christian related sermons or services at other UU congregations in the area, and inviting them to church with Me. Now, I happen to have 2 distinctly Christian UU congregations near Me, so that makes it a bit easier, and I don't know what AR has to offer in that regard.
Date:August 25th, 2008 05:56 pm (UTC)
well Mother -in-law lives almost 5 hours away so i don't think I could invite her. Plus she is unable to walk or ride in a car for long because of nerve pain.
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Date:August 25th, 2008 09:17 pm (UTC)
yeah i don't like proof texting the scripture.
MIL really does though.
Thank you for everything
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